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For about 5 years now I have gone through a lot of life changes, first me and my hubby separate and as this was good for me I still sort of miss him but that’s the choice I made and I am happy with that.

Next me oldest son enlists in the Marine Corps and for the next 4 years I am on pins and needles wondering if he will get out alive, thank GOD he comes home safe and I pray every day for the rest of the troops to return safe.

Then 5 days after my son is honorably discharged he has a very serious accident and has to spend 2 weeks in ICU on life support in which he pulls through and only has a broken arm to deal with.

As for my youngest son he is totally out of control with his life. I try to give him my years of wisdom on life and what I think he should do but he thinks that life is just for fun and in a way it is the only thing is he just doesn’t want to grow up and take on grown-up responsibilities. We argue all the time about the bills we have here. You see I am trying to get him ready for the real world but it is not sinking in. I will have to take drastic measures real soon.

Then with all that I had to deal with, with my sons I get layed off from my job, which was a good job where I was making $17 an hour and then went to college for 2 and a half years only to fail in the last class I took. So no degree. With no other choice I had to lower myself to working at MickyDs. Now don’t get me wrong working at McD is at least bringing home a paycheck but I can hardly make a living there. I do like the work but the pay stinks.

The only thing that get me through all these time is knowing that Taylor Hicks will lift my spirits but for the birth of my granddaughter and another on the way I feel life is not worth living. So as long as I have my grandbabies I will be alright.

I was thinking of making a big life change and moving to a new place and start off with a new “everything”!!!! But where to move to that was the big decision. I wanted to move to where there was a lot of night life since my life is so active now and I am into the music scene now. And then it hit me, Birmingham AL with all the new clubs that is going to be built there, Including Taylor’s, this would be the best place to be in the near future. So after the last concert I go to in MS, this will be my main objective for the year ahead.

I hope you all understand that I am not looking for pity, or advice. I just wanted to vent because you all are such loving and caring people that I just needed to tell someone of my thoughts.

Thank you all for being my friend and for letting me be apart of you lives. As time goes on I will be letting you all know how my plan is going. I figure I have at least a year to make my move. See you all at the concert in MS, soon.

Empty, you sound like a strong person who is able to move on and
make changes when they're needed. That is really difficult for most
people, so congratulations on having guts!!

I'm not a parent, so haven't experienced first hand the issues with
older kids, but many of my friends have and it sounds really tough.
Maybe someone here will have some good advice on motivating your
son to contribute and help him to be more ambitious.

We need a "plant" in B'ham to keep us updated on all the news
and action I think there are a few people on TMS from there,
and they could probably tell you more specifics about neighborhoods,
housing,jobs,etc. Google will help you too!

Feel free to vent anytime-we all need that from time to time.
I'm so glad your son returned home safe and sound, and you're
lucky to have those grandbabies Taylor is an upper for all of
us-we're lucky he came into our lives to spread some "permagrins"
around!

Hang in there!  I have a 17 year old that wants to go into the Marines and I'm torn because I want him to make his own decisions but it scares the hell out of me!  

Then I have a 5 year old who is wonderful.  I too am jobless and feeling ALOT of stress over it.  Money is a very major issue and it's really stressful!  I even tried to get a retail job and nothing!  

Your soooo lucky to be having grandbabies!  ENJOY every beautiful part of their lives!  They grow so fast!  We almost moved to Huntsville, AL but I told my husband not to apply for the transfer, I don't want to leave my Mom here alone.  So we stay here in the NEast where everything is expensive but we do it for love!

Keep us posted about your move!  We may all need a place to stay when Taylors club opens!  :haha:

I too am very proud of you for taking the initiative to make positive changes in your life. That is very admirable!
Please don't think that way about venting to us. We are here for each other & are happy to listen to you & to help any way that we can.

emptyhd
Really don't think your name fits the person who wrote that post by the way.

When you get to " a certain point" in life people who have known you for a long time like to ask things like
"do you have any regrets?." 
Yes ! of course I do !  
there are things I wish I'd done or said differently
but I have no major regrets about the things I've done - - -
but there are many things I regret Not doing - - and that may be the bigger failure.

My wish for you is that your answer will be  Absolutely not ! !

I loudly applaud and encourage your decision to make a life change that you believe will make you happy - - breaking free of the known and taking the leap is scary but it isn't anything you can't undo if need be.

Talked with someone else in Taylor's fan base earlier this year who was evaluating her own status quo and what changes she might want to make while it is still a relatively easy option.  And know there are a couple of people here on NESP that are doing the same thing.  

Maybe reinforcing the idea that you can follow a dream is yet another gift Taylor has given his fans.

Emptyhd - it sounds to me like you have alot of courage. I sometimes wish I could make such a move, but I seem too entrenched in my life here in Maine. I admire you for even thinking of doing it!

And I understand what it is like to lose a good job, it happened to me in July and I am still looking. I am lucky I have the support, both financially and emotionally, of a wonderful man so that I do not have to work at McDonalds yet. But I struggle daily to maintain a positive attitude. Taylor too lifts my spirits, as does my family and friends...and I have found support from others here at NESP. We are here, so vent if you need to...we will listen.